A bold statement by media personality Caren Lumbasi has ignited a spirited online debate. In her viral post, she wrote, “Dear men, if you feel like eating a great meal, kindly call your pastor’s wife and go with him home. African women respect pastors more than their husbands, but nobody wants to talk about it.” Her comment struck a nerve with many, shedding light on a subject often whispered about but rarely discussed openly.
Lumbasi’s post has sparked varied reactions, with some agreeing that in many African homes, women show more admiration and reverence for spiritual leaders than for their own spouses. Others pushed back, defending women’s expressions of faith and the high regard they hold for religious authority.
This issue is not new. In religious circles, some preachers have warned married women against prioritising pastors over their husbands. Cultural and religious norms in many African societies often place pastors on a pedestal, making them figures of moral and spiritual authority. This dynamic, while reflective of deep respect, sometimes leads to unintended consequences at home.
Critics argue that such devotion can blur the lines between spiritual reverence and marital neglect. Stories abound of women going to great lengths for their church leaders while their partners feel overlooked or disrespected.
Lumbasi’s post may have been cheeky, but it opened a timely conversation about priorities in relationships, the role of religion in the family, and the importance of mutual respect between partners.
