Kenyan digital content creator Alma Mutheu has caused quite a stir online after making a bold claim about relationships, particularly around the idea of “building” with a man. In a strongly worded post that has since gone viral, Alma shared her thoughts on loyalty, trust, and emotional investment in romantic partnerships.
“If you build with a man, he will cheat on you. Nishawaambia nyi, endeleeni tu kubuild,” she wrote, suggesting that women who invest their time, energy, and resources in supporting men—especially while they are still trying to succeed—often end up betrayed.
Her statement has triggered widespread reactions, with some women applauding her honesty and saying her words reflect the experiences of many who have helped men rise, only to be left behind or replaced later. Others, however, feel her message is too general and fuels negativity about relationships.
Alma’s comments tap into a long-running conversation in Kenyan society and beyond: should women support their partners through thick and thin, or protect themselves from potential heartbreak? Many see her statement as a wake-up call, especially for young women who often sacrifice their own growth in hopes of building a future with someone who may not be equally committed.
Alma didn’t mention any names or personal experiences in this particular post, her message has clearly struck a nerve.
